It was a right hook seen and heard around the internet; a viral video, now at the center of controversy, spawning a nationwide debate challenging traditional social norms around gender.
The incident took place November 4, 2017, at Hard Rock Stadium in Miami, Florida.
The Miami Hurricanes faced off against the Virginia Tech Hokies. Throughout the game, Miami fan Bridget Frietas was consuming a lot of alcohol. Reports indicate she was running high on ‘liquid courage,’ and began getting belligerent with some fans in her section; screaming a number of profanities.
Four officers were called to the section where the 30-year-old Hispanic woman was seated.
Authorities attempted to escort her to the nearest corridor to speak with her. Yet, intoxicated and running high on emotion, she refused to leave. Following several requests, the four officers, along with two men and one woman, lifted Freitas up over their shoulders and began to carry her up the stairs to the corridor.
However, Freitas was not going out without a fight.
She kicked and waved her arms while being carried up the stairs to the corridor. During her temper tantrum she slapped Miami-Dade Detective, Douglas Ross, who was retraining her right leg; immediately afterward, Ross’s fist connected with the right side of Freitas’ face, knocking her back like a rag doll.
Freitas has been charged with felony battery on a police officer and disorderly conduct misdemeanor. Reports do not indicate she spent any time in jail. The cop, of course, is on a temporary suspension following an investigation. Take a look and judge for yourselves.
Based on initial responses over social media, it appears the majority of comments lean heavily in the officer’s favor. People saw a woman, acting like a brat, being carried out like one, get served a mouthful of justice.
HOW IT WAS ORIGINALLY
Could this be a possible sign our culture has opened its eyes to what a genderless society looks like? What equality across the board really means?
It certainly begs the question; should there be exceptions to how genders are treated?
For centuries men were taught to honor and protect women. When instances of women being physically assaulted happened, society was quick to come down harshly on the male abuser. If a man was caught doing something inappropriate – such as a husband cheating on his wife – she could slap him and be applauded for standing up for herself.
In instances where a man physically assaulted a woman, he would be viewed as a ‘weak’ and classified as a ‘bully,’ drawing a plethora of insults. This cultural norm, I do believe, is still present in our nation today.
Again, the original expectation was for men to honor, respect and protect women. Not use their size to intimidate and force them into submission. And, if a woman were to get upset and slap a man, generally the assumption was he was asking for it.
EQUAL RIGHTS, WITH ADDED PRIVILEGES
The feminist movement helped further women’s causes and, as a result, leveled the playing field. Aside from the random male chauvinist, the majority of men are supportive of equal rights for women.
Yet, today, not everyone is on the same page when it comes to physical retaliation against women. The third-wave feminist movement has complicated the matter. While there’s no argument that it’s NEVER acceptable to hit a woman out of anger , the debate is whether a man should have the right to retaliate if a woman initiates an assault against him first.
With equality being the focal point of the feminist movement, it seems many were under the impression certain privileges still applied. Many feminists still believe they have the privilege of hitting a man for whatever reason they deem fit, expecting no physical retaliation. This was not part of the initial ‘equality’ standards they advocated to acquire.
This is comparable to accepting a higher paying job and not realizing what responsibilities came along with it. The employee does not have the right to pick and choose which duties to perform in their new position. The responsibilities are the same across the board for whoever is offered the position. Duties are not simply altered as a result of gender, race or sexual identification.
In the past, many women would use their gender to carry out physical assaults, knowing both men and women would come to their aid should their male victim retaliate. The irony is the present-day feminist push for a genderless society, yet many still want to retain certain privileges bestowed to their gender. So where does this leave us as a nation?
Is it more important to focus on the creation of a genderless society? Or, should American culture work harder to remind men how to treat a lady while simultaneously teaching women the importance of respecting men?